Re: Dear Ralph: How do I stay Intrested

So my reader named mikado got back to me after some time to follow up on what has been happening with this girl he likes. Read the first story here Here

Dear Ralph
    So that girl I told you I lectured during exams, I managed to get her digits but not from her anyway. Before I could ask her for it she had already traveled so I had to get it from her lodge mat. But I don't think its necessary calling her because it's not wise to get people's digits from another person especially in this kind of situation. We chat on whatsapp, the chat is normal and she replies well but I don't know how to develop a level a better level of closeness between us. She just replies whatever I ask her but never creates room for further discussions and questions. And if I just keep doing all the questioning I fear that she might look at me as a person that had nothing better to do. I don't just know how to prolong our chat. Viewing her display picture makes me sad because I see an opportunity I couldn't just hold. Please Advice

                                                                                                                                              Mikado




Dear Mikado
       I want to say congrats on your progress so far. First of all since you have collected her number and contacted her with it don't worry anymore about the way you got it, if you want you could even chat her up and ask her to please not mind that you got her number form a friend, I think she will appreciate your sincerity and politeness. You calling her now also wouldn't be as bad because she already knows that you got her number from her friend and it's not like your hiding that fact anymore but at the same time I understand your fears and I am going to give you an alternative. You can try to arrange something when you both get back to school, try to call her and arrange a hangout, dinner, breakfast or lunch anyone that is preferable to you. That physical meeting will be much better and as I keep saying, if you still don't want to be direct it is fine but you need to start hinting at what you want and get that "tutor" image out of her mind.
      If you want, you could reduce the way you chat with her for now since she isn't responding well in the chats. Seems she is cutting you off already but don't be discouraged, at times it take a bit of a struggle to win a woman's attention. Also bear in mind that she might already know your intentions because girls see this kind of approach all the time and that is why I encourage you to be more upfront about your intentions.
       So far I would say once again congrats and good job. Keep working and you will get over this soon. As usual a feedback will still be appreciated. Thanks and bye for now

                                                                                                                                               Ralph