Dear Ralph: My boyfriend says there is another woman

Hello Ralph,
    I never knew I will ever have to write for an advice as I have always read through other people's own needs but oh well, here we are. So I have been with this guy for about 9 months now. It's been great so far until last week. It seemed like my world flipped right around. We were having one of our usual chats over the phone and he told me he had to get something off he's chest.
He said that there was another lady. He met her before me and liked her but when he met me he fell for me. And now he doesn't know how to choose between us. He says that "he has to consider many different things first"
   Saying that I am heartbroken would be the least of it. I have never put anybody in this position and never knew I would be in one, I hear from other people but never imagined it happening to me. I told him that let's take a break so he can think things through but he says he can't be without me. So I am really confused about why he's mind isn't yet made up.
    4 days ago he told me that he is being disturbed about getting into a relationship by different women. One of my concerns is that I always make it clear that I have a bf when guys come to me but he never mentions me when it's him.  I really love this guy still but i'm not sure I want to be with someone who can't decide if he wants me or not. I know he loves me too though, so I am kind of torn in-between decisions right now. I don't want to take this to friends and family because they know him and really admire him plus I'm scared of negative advice.

Please help

                                                                                                                                          Sweet Cakes





Hello Sweet Cakes
            This is how I feel you should go about this. First of all the next time you guys talk, have him know what you feel about the whole thing, but don't let him use the pity of your sadness and select you immediately, just be cool and tell him that you will be fine. Let him know that you appreciate him being sincere with you and all but that there are thing you can't deal with. Then I think you should just go ahead and take a break instead of still suggesting it to him again. Give yourself some space to recover and some time to think things through on your own. Find clarity within yourself and think about what you want from him and what you can handle. Think of what you truly want from a relationship, think about if this relationship is headed where you want and know if you are truly happy still being with him. If you choose to continue then fine and if you choose not to continue it is also absolutely fine, just make sure that your choice is truly what your heart wants and that it is something you won't regret tomorrow. Forget about what people might or might not say and concentrate on what's best for you and your future.

I hope things workout for you and take it easy with the heartbreak. Stay more around friends and get your mind off things. Stay strong dear...