Monday Myth: Wedding rings are hadcuffs

          Have you ever come across this saying.... "A wedding ring is the small handcuff ever...so choose your cell mate wisely and sentence yourself carefully". Yeah I bet if you have been on any social media for the past year or so then you must have seen it once or twice. Well this isn't the truth. We are going to be debunking this one today.




In all honesty, their are restrictions that will apply once you get married but it depends on a lot of things. Not everything you used to do would be easy to back to. This is mostly because of different reasons that range from personal choices, responsibility, growth and maturity, change in character and of cos restriction from your spouse. Yes even though I am debunking the myth I won't lie and say that there aren't spouses that might cause you to change a couple of things.

Here is the thing, you always have a choice in life. You can choose to be happy, you can choose to be sad, you can choose to be married or to be single. And just the same way you have these choices, so do you get to choose the person you are going to be with. Marriage won't feel like a prison to you if you get married to someone that you truly understand and that truly understands you. Yes! look at what I said, someone that you understand and that truly understands you. A common mistake people make these days is getting too caught up in trying to please themselves that they forget their partner. People tend to forget that for things to move smoothly, there has to be consideration from the both parties. Now if you find someone that has a good understanding towards you and vice-versa, even though duties and responsibilities might come up and restrict you from doing a couple of things once in a whil, you are hardly going to feel it because you will be happy.

Finally I'll like to tell you guys this....Remember what I keep telling you guys about mind state? Most things you do in this life especially how you feel towards certain things are all based on your mind state. If you have in your mind that marriage is going to be like prison. Yes, you might feel like you are bracing yourself and preparing yourself for marriage and everything it has to offer and I admit, depending on who you are with, you might be right. However by keeping that mind state, you would have already sentenced yourself to a restricted and frustrating marriage even before you get into it. The dangerous part of this is that people who think like this often end up unhappy and feeling caged in even when they aren't being restricted by their partner. You should learn to keep a positive mind because a negative one would have a negative impact on your emotions regardless of any positive action your spouse might take.

Learn to open your heart and mind to positivity, learn to choose happiness, I can honestly tell you that marriage isn't as bad as people paint it to be. Choose your partner well, there might be bad days but hey! who doesn't have bad days even on their own. Marriage is bound to have it's bad days but conditioning your mind that marriage is going to be like  prison is going to make it feel just like that for you. In the long run you are going to end up frustrated and frustrate your spouse out of the marriage.