Energy and Aggression Transfer.

 
 I follow the Tyrese Gibson Facebook page very well, and if you follow it you would find that man to be very inspiring. He might joke around a lot in some of the roles he plays in movies, like as Roman in the fast and furious sequel but believe me, he can go deep. A couple of weeks ago he posted a video where he spoke about transferring energy and it really gave me the words and boost on something I have always wanted to address. Big ups to the black Ty for the inspiration on this one...



Transfer of Energy from one situation to the other. Ask yourself, you reaction to certain circumstances, are they proportional to the cause of the situation? or are they the energy levels built up and stored due to a different situation all together. Let me make it a little clearer...

Alright so picture this, you are in a relationship right and that person you are in it with is aggressive towards you or just generally annoying. You sit for years enduring and hoping that things would get better but they don't so when you can't take it anymore you decide to walk out. Now you meet a new person and just like every other relationships you both have your issues. But then there is a problem, when this new person screws up you blow it all out of proportion.
      Take for instance that you told them to take the trash on their way out in the morning or you told them to help you buy something for you on their way to meet up with you. But then they fail to carry out these little tasks that you gave them. You bring down the house because of these little things and tell them of how incompetent they are. You complain and get angry each time a little issue comes up or when it looks like they are behaving slightly but not entirely similar to your past relationship. Sometimes even, there is no similarities in behavior in between. The thing is, if you look closely most times when this kind of situation occurs. The person doing the yelling isn't always yelling at their partner because of what they did at that point. It isn't the trash or the forgetfulness that caused that amount of anger in them. It's the energy and frustration from their previous relationship that has been transferred to this new one. Consequently you see that a relationship that would have been beautiful or even just normal to mention the least gets ruined because of transferred energy.
   You find that the treatment you give this new person isn't fair on the person because it isn't the energy they deserve that you are giving them. It isn't their damage that they are getting punished for, you are punishing them for things that you couldn't settle in the past. You are transferring the heat, pressure and negative energy from your previous relationship to the new one. And most times when this happens, you don't even know that you are doing it.

Do not take the energy from work and bring it home. And neither should you take the energy from home and bring it to work if you are having a rough time at home. The same goes for other people in different situations not just the family people. Do not transfer the energy and frustration from school to your house. Generally, make sure that your reaction to situations are not exaggerated because of the energy from a different situation.

To make sure that this does not happen. Make sure you do not bottle up emotions too much. Yes once in a while it's good to swallow somethings and not speak out. Somethings are best handled that way but then we are only human and there is just so much that we can take before we implode. Learn to settle issues where they start so you don't ruin things in the present because of problems from the past.