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Wednesday, 5 November 2014

Dear Ralph: I love my bestfriend



Hey Ralph
       How is the blogging? I've had my eyes on a my best-friend since before I even started getting close to him. Actually the reason I started getting close to him was so that he would see me more, know that I exist and hopefully be also interested in me. We have been close for about two years now and it's been great. But recently he came to me gushing about this other girl that he had met. I see that he really really likes this girl but that doesn't change the fact that I want him. Like that wasn't enough now the times we spend together he spends with her. When I go to he's hostel he is never there because he is always in her house. I am now the only person that goes to eat at our favorite Buker. I really like this guy and don't know what to do. I don't know how I messed this up, I thought I had it planned out well. Can you advice?
                                                                                                                                   Chizzy


Hi Chizzy
               Well you made a mistake by not making your intentions known from the beginning, although I understand how difficult it might be for you as a girl to be the one to speak up. I also believe that you might have shown more interest in being friends than you did in being he's Girlfriend. But don't panic all you have to do is start now to correct it by telling him what you actually feel for him, as I said before I know it won't be easy for you but given the circumstances you are in there isn't much you can do is there? You can't just sit back and pray that they break up one day. Best to let your feelings out, step back and have him do what he wants, at least you will have removed it form your mind. You will never know if he feels for you also until you give it a try and left for me there is no harm in trying. If you do feel that it is going to put him in a state of confusion and that you might break up a happy relationship then that is also fine but, you have to be ready to face the possibility of losing your chances of having him forever. If after everything all you tried doesn't workout then don't worry because everything happens for a reason, the fact that you people made good friends doesn't guarantee that you will have made great lovers.
                                                                                                                                         Ralph

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7 Comments:

At 5 November 2014 at 15:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Leave them alone you hva passed up your chance

 
At 5 November 2014 at 15:49 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

just let it go. if you love him let him be

 
At 5 November 2014 at 15:50 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

just let it go. if you love him let him be

 
At 5 November 2014 at 16:01 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

there are many other ppl out there. allow him to be happy befor you go and poison the girl now

 
At 5 November 2014 at 21:01 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

It mite just work out 4 both of u,just open up...I fell in love wit my best friend and it's bin d best relationship of my life...#lovemybestfriendturnboyfriend.

 
At 6 November 2014 at 04:36 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

true talk..let them be
@sheyiA

 
At 6 November 2014 at 11:02 , Anonymous Mimi said...

There s an old saying dt goes thus and I quote"if u love somtin,let it go;if it ws truly meant 2 be urs,it will surely come back" I suggest u let him be and wish him all d happiness he can get from u,if u try 2 ruin his relatnship wt her,he may hate u 4 it

 

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