Friday Fact: Infidelity is by person not gender

     We have heard it over and over again. The argument is always going on and on, it also seems like it is never going to be concluded. The question is who cheats more between men and women. I have seen it a million times and heard it from the mouths of people. Either they are saying "It is in the nature of men to cheat" or "Women cheat more, it's just that they are more careful about it". At the end of it all we still haven't concluded on who cheats more, of cos everyone would fight for their own gender. However I want to clear up a little fact and maybe give you guys a different way to look at things.




Be it man or woman, cheating is wrong and it is a big problem. People do it for different reasons best known to each of them. What I do not believe is in the saying that "It is in the nature of men to cheat" or that "It is in the nature of women to cheat". I do not believe that anyone was brought into this world with a natural cheating behavior in the person. The only things that could cause a person to cheat are encountered after they are born into this world. For example a person can be affected by environment, peer pressure, curiosity, up bringing, bad company and many other factors. Now these aren't limited to any gender in particular and as you can see these aren't factors that come naturally.

Cheating is a choice that people make, either out of poor judgement, carelessness, revenge or a momentary lapse in self control. Either ways, a choice is a choice and it is yours to make it or leave it. Anybody is capable of making the choice to cheat, this also isn't limited to a particular gender or any particular person.  I believe that everyone is to be held accountable for the choices they make in life. They alone and not other people of the same gender. If a person chooses to cheat then he/she alone bears the consequences and if a person chooses not to then fine, he or she alone gets the praises. However saying that a particular gender has it in them to cheat is absolutely wrong. It's no different from attributing a particular behavior to a particular race.

The problem with this kind of mentality is the poor judgement that comes with it. Did you know that keeping a negative mind state towards a particular gender could cause hatred towards them? How do you think other stereotypes like racism and the rest started out and grew into what they are today. Now look at yourself closely if you possess hatred for a particular gender and tell me the difference between you and a racist. If you maintain a mentality that members of the opposite sex be it male or female depending on your own gender, has it in them to cheat then you will notice a poor judgement towards members of that gender that you encounter in your life.  I believe you should treat every single person as a different human being and give them the benefit of doubt. Wait for them to show you who they are personally before concluding on their behavior or judging them. It's okay to be careful but you can be careful without being conclusive on a persons behavior before getting to know the person.

Infidelity is a choice that a person makes regardless of their gender and not a natural attribute possessed by a particular gender.

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