No need to envy what they have

    Have you ever had that friend that you wish you was in his/her shoes, especially but not limited to their love life? You see the person and their partner and they just have the perfect relationship. Somehow you just wish that their partner was yours and depending on how possible it is, you might actually make a move to possess what you want (their partner). This, sometimes doesn't happen because you want to destroy the thing that your friend has. its juts that at that point you aren't thinking of your friend or the pain you might bring the person. You just need to be happy like them and the only possibility you are seeing to achieve that is by having that which they have. But here is the problem....




There is a reason why those two people are happy together. It all starts with their individual characters and as you know, every single person differs. The joy that your friend brings to his/her partner and vice-versa is as a result of who they are individually. The envy that you feel and your intention to take over from your friend doesn't always end up good.

First of all, since you aren't the same person that your friend is, there is no way you can find the same happiness that they found if you are put in his/her shoes. There are things about that your friend, characters about the person that makes their partner love them the way they do. If you do not possess those particular characters then their is no way that you will find the same happiness when placed in their shoes. And as you know, there is no way that you will be exactly the same person as another being.

Instead of wasting your time and energy on envy, here is what you should do. Try to work on yourself. Be a better person, a person that is content with what they have and is appreciative of whatever they are. Recognize your own flaws and try to work on them to become a better you. Then finally, try to be genuinely happy for your friends who are happy even if you aren't seeing your own happiness yet. Observe that I said 'yet' showing that yours will come. The right attitude and confidence together with who you build yourself to be will guarantee that yours comes. Do not wish to be in another persons shoes. Instead construct your own shoes and rock them the best way possible.

Taking these steps is the only way that you will recognize your own happiness when it comes to you. Most people who miss out on the best things that are presented to them in life do so because they were too busy looking at other peoples own and wishing to have that instead. Believe me when I say that yours is the best you can have. Do not waste any time on envy. Start building yourself and preparing for your own happiness for when it comes. You aren't your friends so even if you replace them, you won't fill their position as well as you would have filled the position meant for you. Look for your space and appreciate it.