Don't be afraid to ask for assistance.

Good morning everyone, hope you all had a good night like I did. I think I have to cut back on my drinking a bit. I can't believe I was out with my friends on a Monday night. Anyways I had my reason. I Went back home to an angry tone from a certain someone and had to beg and seduce my way into forgiveness. Good thing I'm not too proud to admit when I've done something wrong. Anyways it was a friends birthday and she invited us out so I couldn't disappoint her. Nice party Uju, happy birthday one more time to you...

 Before I start this post I just want to say that if you are are still sad over Mayweather remaining undefeated then I'll be serving panadol later on today so just meet me up and i'll give you your own. lol.

So today we are talking of asking for assistance. It's going to be a short one...I hope...




I believe in the saying that no single man is an island and in the saying that 'united we stand, divided we fall'. Most of the time our goals and target destinations stare us right in the face, they seem so close to us and yet so far away. This has happened countless times to me and I can tell you that the frustration of having something in front of you that you can't touch is crazy. Most times all we need to do is turn around and ask for a little help from people around us but then again, we as humans have our pride. We miss out on so many opportunities thanks to our pride and other reasons.

Personally I used to have this thing in my head, like a resolve, that I never want to thank anyone for my success. Mine was so bad that I wouldn't even want my family to help even if they offered. No matter how small the offer was, I would refuse it. It helped me both positively today and had it's own negative side also. The negative effect was that my growth in those areas I refused help was stunted and really slow. However through that I gained the knowledge I have today of how we all need help. As I grew I learnt that all you can do is to put a limit to the number of favors you ask from people. To make sure that out of 100% you ask for help for only 20% of the whole process or even less. You need to show that you can go a certain distance on your own for people to take your requests seriously. The truth is that the ladder of success is a very unstable one, not only is it unstable but it is very high to reach the top. In order to climb successfully you will need the advice of those who have made it to the top before you. You also need a couple of people to help hold things in place for you while you climb.

I know that most of the time, the reason most of us refuse to ask for assistance is that the help we receive form other people never come straight from their heart. Most of the time there are other motives behind them but we can't always turn every help offered to us down. The best we can do is to weigh the consequences and benefits of the help we are receiving and know if it is worth it. To try not to be too desperate and yet not too loath. The help doesn't have to always be financial or anything physical, it could even be just words of advice. No single entity knows it all so once in a while it is okay to ask for assistance to scale a bridge or reach a goal if it is too far. It doesn't make you too dependent as long as you find a way to also make moves and take steps on your own.

Sometimes you run the race of success for so long and all it takes to complete your journey is just a little extra step, just a single step but you are too exhausted. It is allowed to get that little nudge that will tip you over the finishing line. It is okay to ask for help once in a while. Just remember those that helped you cross that line and help them in return to climb when they need.

Abi I told you people it was going to be short...