Who is responsible for the choices we make?

Through your daily struggles and daily achievements. Through thick and thin. Through right and wrong, good or bad and any situation at all you face. Every single day of your life, the choices you make are yours. You alone are responsible for the choices you make. Provocative and disappointing situations might arise but the way we choose to deal with them is totally our choice. I am going to borrow a few words of wisdom from the late Nelson Mandela and it is this.

    "May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears". I am going to tweak this a little and say that "May your choices reflect who you want to be and not who they want you to be". Because at the end of the day its you, not them, that's responsible for your choices

The above quote says a lot but doesn't even begin to say half of everything that your choices are responsible for. It doesn't even scratch the surface.

You might have had your own share of heartbreak, disappointments and let downs from different areas of your life, from your love life to your work life. I always say this, never let the situations change who you are. The moment you let what you go through affect you, your everyday choices are altered and your general life takes a different shape. 

People go through a lot everyday, really tough situations that are enough to break a mind that isn't mentally strong. I know these are the things that lead us to change who we are but always ask yourself if you would be proud of who you are going to become. The disappointments we face everyday are designed to teach us lessons. It doesn't necessarily mean that we are to change who we are. 

When I talk about not changing who you are. I am talking to you all out there who know that their choices in life are morally and positively correct. You don't have to change into what you know you aren't in the name of "experience". I believe some things are best avoided instead of letting them change who you are. Sometimes all you need is to take a little time to yourself and remember the reason you made the choice to be who you were in the first place. You might go through a situation that makes you question if you are right remaining the way you are. Let me tell you now that as long as you are moving in the right path, people can choose to criticize or take advantage of you don't have to change who you are. The only change you should make is to make sure that the way they choose to see you doesn't affect you or totally stay away from their waves of negativity towards your lifestyle.

Never let the situations surrounding you choose your path for you. The choice is all yours because at the end of the day it isn't the situation or person behind your reason for change that matters. It is you who matters. A person or a situation can give you all the reason to make the wrong choice but are you going to give in? Because at the end of the day all they did was give you reasons and not actually make the choices for you.

Take charge of your life, be who you know you are meant to be and make the right choices. Never let a situation define you. You alone are responsible for the choices you make.