Dear Ralph: They only want my body

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Dear Ralph

I am very worried, every man I meet wants to have s3x with me. I don't dress provocatively. why do u think it happens. Thank you.


Loveth






Dear Peace.

There are a million reasons why the guys you meet would want only sex from you. It could be the particular kind of guys that you meet and how you get to meet them. You know the environment you meet people could determine the way they look at you. For instance if you meet most of the guys at hangouts, clubs, beer parlors and swimming pools, these are places that either expose your body or give off a hint that you are about the wild lifestyle. That is just one reason. However you shouldn't blame yourself for any reason if you know you are doing nothing to deserve that sort of perception from guys. All you can do is to check yourself to be sure you aren't actually giving off any wrong signal. If you check yourself and you are clear then the blame falls on the guys an not you. You shouldn't hold yourself responsible for the wrong perception they have of you or for their personal character.

Secondly, emphasizing more on the last point I made above, it could simply be that you aren't to blame. It could just be the way majority of the men in your area see things. Some of them might actually be genuinely interested in you but have an orientation that sex must be part of any relationship. In that case you just have to tell them what you believe in and stand your ground. If they want you and not just your body they shouldn't have a problem adjusting to that rule.  It could also just be that some of them aren't interested in anything but s3x. This isn't your fault also. It's just the way those men are so you don't have to worry yourself about them.
   Try this out,  restrict s3x from these people until you are ready for it and you are sure that they are there to stay. Doing that just might help you sieve out the ones that have your genuine interest at heart. You cannot control the way these people act or feel or what they want from you but you have control over your own self so that is the best place for you to start. Self control...
 

My other advises are...

1. Make conscious effort not to give off any hint that you want sex or try to attract anyone s3xually. Be more self conscious of your actions
2. State from the beginning of any meeting or relationship that you aren't in it for the s3x, that you aren't going to be having s3x for a period of time or that you won't be doing it at all (if you want to be celibate)
3 Stand on your decision when you decide not to have s3x with a person. The ones that really want you will stay with you regardless. The others will leave.

These are just a few tips and few reasons why this might be happening to you. I would appreciate it if you can give me a summary of how you meet most of these guys and I might be able to help you more. However don't let it bother you, for all you know, the problem isn't from you but from the men themselves. So take it easy, you will eventually meet the kind of man you really want.

Do not worry, you are going to meet the right person that wants only the best for you. Find the spirit to fight through the trials and you will have your reward at the end. Welcome to the AskRalph family....



Ralph