Priorities; Family bond or Wealth

 We live in a crazy world, we have to struggle daily to make a living and feed our families. We struggle and hustle everyday to make enough, so as to enable us take care of the ones we love and live our dream comfortable life. But when caught in the heat of the pressure from the everyday struggle, sometimes we tend to loose focus of things that really matter to us and we misplace our priorities. Sometimes the people that suffer the consequences of this the most are the same loved ones that we suffer everyday to take care of.


Never forget to always make out time from your daily hustle and bustle for your family and loved ones. Check on your friends once in a while. Talk to your sons and daughters to find out what is happening in their life. Try to be more involved in their life. At the end of the day you find out that all our struggles are partly for our enjoyment and mostly for our children's comfort. But then there is a whole lot that is more important to our loved ones than financial comfort. If the emotional comfort is lacking then you find that other achievements end up as a waste.

Never make the mistake of thinking that as long as your family has the money, that in the future they would understand your absence. They might understand yes but by then it might be too late to do anything about it, you would have missed a lifetime of opportunities at creating a close bond with them. So make time out for the family and try to be more available for them when they need you. There are many families out there that are rich and can afford everything they want, yet there is no peace and love inside their home. The parents don't get along, the siblings have no close bond and nobody can really tell who the other person is. Do you know how bad it is not actually knowing who your children or other members of you family are? In this case you have to agree with me that this is one thing that is more important than money. Creating that bond and close union in your family is one of the most important things.

I have found that most but not all families whose financial status are about average and below tend to have a closer bond and understanding than families who are more on the wealthy side. It seems the diversion of attention from the families togetherness to the materialistic life seems to grow as you climb the ladder of financially capable families. The higher you go, the more you see families that are hardly one. The worst part of this is that they don't know it and the few that realize it hardly know a way to start fixing it because their minds are quickly reoccupied by some other materialistic targets. But of cos there are exceptions and even if you have a family today or plan on having one tomorrow make sure you are one of the exceptions.

By all means, struggle and struggle as much as you can to provide for your family and give them the luxurious life they deserve. But when a time comes to choose between hustling for the money and the happiness of your family, remember the reason you are hustling in the first place and make your decision. You might think that this is an obvious fact and say to yourself that it's not possible that you will find yourself having to choose between family and wealth. Well let me tell you that a percentage of people who have had to make this decision and made the wrong one once thought that they had their priorities in check.

The thing about that point when you have to make the decision of wealth over family is that it doesn't happen at an instant. It start slowly and you lure yourself into the decision with time. You create excuses for you decisions in the beginning. Starting from telling yourself that it's only going to happen once and then before you know it you find yourself telling yourself that your family would understand in the future. It doesn't happen at a point, it happens gradually and over time

The best thing I would advice would be for you to keep your mind open to the possibility that you might not be so much in control. Create that fear that you might screw up when the time comes, then use the fear to always keep your mind and heart in check in case the situation comes up. Do not make up any excuses and do not pass up a chance at spending time with your people. Learn how to balance things out and remember the reason you struggle so hard in the first place.
  Many have been tried and tested when it comes to this and have seen how easy it is to misplace priorities because of money, if you underestimate this situation you wouldn't even know when it would happen to you.

So when last did you spend a quality time with your loved ones? When last did you actually sit down with your young child and ask them how they are doing, not just passively but with the intent to actually know.When last did you pay your family any real attention. When last did you sit down to actually look and be filled with joy through appreciation of what you have in front of you?

If its been a while since you did all this I am sure you have your reasons. Life isn't easy at all. The balance involved is crazy. But that's why I'm here, to remind you of these things. Make out time this weekend. Be with them.

#Familyoverwealth



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