Q&A: Is it okay to re marry?

Q: Ralph how are you doing. Just a quick question. I know a lady who her husband passed away. She has mourned him for 2 years now but recently started seeing someone. She is even thinking of getting married again. What do you think about this? She is kind of confused and I wanted to get another persons opinion on this.





A: I personally believe that it is okay and sometimes even important. Most people make a mistake to think that getting married to another person after your loved one passes away means that you never loved your spouse in the first place, but I do not agree with this. The bitter truth is that life goes on, you cannot stay and be miserable for ever. Getting involved with some one else is part of the healing process and would help you get over the hurt and pain, because eventually you would have to learn to live without the person that you lost. It is good to remember the person, to still love the person but it is also okay to open your heart to another person if you are beginning to love another after some time of being lonely. We are only human and it's just a matter of time before the whole that loneliness leaves starts demanding to be filled up. I don't think people in this situation should punish themselves forever and live to deny themselves what their heart wants.I think the new person being introduced into your life would understand that if your deceased spouse was around he/she wouldn't be there with you.

I say all this actually to the people who judge those that want to move on after their significant other passes away. Most of them haven't been through this particular situation so do not fully understand the pain. If the person who lost someone decides that he/she still doesn't want to marry then it is also very okay. I am just trying to say that it is absolutely their own choice and no other person should have a say in it.

As I said before, getting involved with another person does not mean that you no more love your deceased spouse because they have passed away. Sometimes It could just depend on the reason the person is using to get married again. If it is just to satisfy desires of the flesh then most times it would be considered wrong and disrespectful to the deceased spouse. It is often seen as more justifiable if there is genuine love and interest from both parties.




Please note that this is just my own personal opinion and people that have other views should feel free to share theirs also if they wish to. I am not stating that my own opinion is the all and all. It is just what I feel about this situation. Thanks