Dear Ralph: I Finish too quickly

 

 
Dear Ralph


 I abstained from Intimacy for a very long time cos of fear of infection and lack of seeing the one I truly love. Now I have met someone but the problem is that I don't last long. I don't know what to do.

                                                                                                                                         Anonymous

  Dear anonymous, the problem of PE is one that haunts most men but few are willing to admit it. But you have made the first and most important step by admitting the problem. Now first of all you need to understand that  there are long term and short term fixes to this. A healthy lifestyle to begin with, if you are a smoker then you are also at risk of suffering PE. Exercising and eating health fruits and foods also go a long way in helping you out. Most people will recommend going for the blue pill.  I personally don't recommend this but if you must, then seek the consent of your doctor.
          Now on to the quick fixes....
     There are lot's of ways to get around this, there are creams called desensitizing creams that could help you with numbing out your penis for a while but you get to maintain your erection all the same but you won't enjoy it as much. You could also get what they call a delay ring or a cock ring, it is  ring you place on your privates to trap blood, it helps for both PE and erectile dysfunction and now there are rings with a vibrating top that teases the woman's "bud" when you move.
     Remember that the act of ejaculation comes from squeezing of the muscles so you would want to remain relaxed, the moment you tense up and start clenching your muscles your bound to explode anytime from then. Which brings me to positions, certain positions could help you delay release like the cow girl position or the woman on top, the basic missionary position or man on top engages too many of your muscles and that's why you release quicker. Also you could introduce a finger or two in your pre-intimacy to get things really going. I could go on and on but take this few and experiment with them. Oh yeah don't forget to breathe, like seriously take deep breaths, it helps more than you think.
      One other trick, you know how when you release right now you just can't release as fast on the second round or third? well try and get yourself off before the first round, yeah you self service before you enter the activity and you will find yourself lasting some more. There are lots and lots of other ways but just try these for now then get back to me.


Tip: Take your time during pre-intimacy to really get her in the mood and ready for you, try some cunnilingus, if you learn it right it works wonders (contact me directly for tips on how to go down). Your fingers are also a good tool, don't underestimate them