What if she isn't ready?

Hello everyone that get's to see this. Sorry about the late posting after the Morning Coffee. We had to work on the generator in my office and it took more time than I thought. The day was practically wasted. Forgive the late post please. This might also be the last post for today so bear with me, thanks! So let's do this then.....

This one is really interesting.










So I was out this weekend enjoying a refreshing bottle of my favorite...ehem..."drink".  You know, just a nice relaxing evening out on Saturday with my friends and we were generally talking about different stuff. We were just a combination of guys and girls from the office. Some came with their wives, some came with their girlfriends, some with their boyfriends and some with their husbands while some came alone. Our topic however was mostly based on things that happened in the office the past week, both things that were pleasant and things that weren't so good. Seeing that we, the people from the office were more than those that just tagged along because of their relationship with us working at the office, we outnumbered them. Also, the fact that we were talking of office matters left them kind of bored. They hardly had anything to contribute apart from little questions that were quickly answered or unintentionally dismissed in a couple of occasions when the person talking felt that what he/she had to say was more important and that diverting to answer the question being asked would cause he/she to forget what they were saying. Now while all this was going the boredom from those who tagged along was being noticed and even at a point one of them stopped to yawn loudly so we knew it was time to switch up our talk. We switched to general topics ...


As we were talking our talk diverted into relationships and somehow into marriage. I personally nudged it into the direction of marriage and proposal because of our months poll. I wanted to find a topic to discuss and I sure got it.

Now one of the guy that was with us (the crew from the office) was the one talking and somehow brought up an invitation to his brothers wedding and said that he didn't have enough but that he was inviting all of us to the wedding. This his brother is about a year or more older than him and In a way the fact that his brother was getting married was weighing on him. He was worried that he would be the next to marry but he wasn't worried because of the usual "guy isn't ready to marry yet" story that we are all used to. This was something quite different.

You see this guy was accompanied by his girlfriend of about 5 years and through the whole time we were talking more about office issues she was the one that mostly had contributions and even when she wasn't talking you could just see that she had energy in her. She is this naturally lively person. She talks loud, is bold and looks you directly in your eyes when she speaks to you. Now while we were talking about my friends brothers marriage he looked disturbed but we really didn't know what the problem was. At least not until he mentioned that very soon his parents would expect him to get married and we all laughed at his fear. We thought that was the problem but got to understand what he meant better when he quickly glanced over at his girl and said...."baby that means if they are getting married by this September then our own would be March next year". The girl looked back at him and shocked all of us. She turned to him and said "How many times will I tell you that I am not ready to get married, I still want to enjoy dating and being free". I practically froze and when I unfroze I found out that the rest of the table was still frozen....

It wasn't just the fact that she said it, we were all in a jolly mood that evening and could have easily laughed it off but with the seriousness she used to say it. This particular lady is one person that jokes a lot and talks very much but the problem she says something with seriousness, even if it has a twist of jest to it a blind person would spot it immediately. She was being very serious and we could evidently see that she was still out to enjoy herself. I scanned to be sure of her age and I was well convinced that she was at least well into her twenties. My friend later confirmed her age and yeah, she is old enough to get married. Well, she is old enough according to what everyone see's as old enough. She on the other hand doesn't give a care of what others think and she was making if very clear.

After a couple of interviews on that table that evening we got to find out that my friend had proposed to his girl 2 times in private and she turned him down saying that she wasn't ready to get married yet. I asked him in private later and he was really disturbed about it. What confuses him more is that he has told her that if she doesn't want to get married then that he would have to find someone to settle with but she refuses to let him go. She, according to him, really loves him and wouldn't want to spend her life with any other person. It's just that at this point in her life she really doesn't want to get married yet and she isn't in a hurry.

You know all these really sounded strange to me but looking at it closer it kind of sounded really familiar don't you think? This is exactly reverse of the typical situation we have everyday between the men and the women. The lady is usually the one waiting to be proposed to and the man is usually the one backing away from any kind of commitment

We have heard women complaining about men not being eager to commit into marriage and this is because of certain factors like age that isn't very pleasant to the female folks. I have also heard a lot of advice being given to the females to leave the man once he isn't ready to commit and look for someone else. However now that reverse is the case I really wonder what the general advice would be.

I know the advice I gave to him when we spoke. However I want to know what you guys think? When a man is ready to commit and the lady isn't but still wouldn't let him go what do you think the guy should do.