Tuesday Tip: Fixing things after the S3x on the First date

   So yesterday I said that my Tuesday Tip will be based on those who have already had s3x on the first date. I have a few words for you. That first night does not determine other nights or the rest of your relationship. There is still hope! So If you really like the person you are dating and you are hoping for a good future with the person. But your mind is in doubt if anything would work because of what happened after the first date....







Say 'No' the second time: Just relax, the fact that you gave in the first time doesn't mean you can't say no the second or third time. So just let that one go, be who you are and let your values and morals speak for you. The fact that you made a mistake or got carried away the first night doesn't mean that you have no morals. And if the person judges you for that, remember that they are just as guilty as you, so don't let that get to you.

Let your values speak for you:  If you are given the chance to continue in the relationship after that first night then you have a good chance. Let them see the worth in you and keep them guessing how you are able to compose yourself after what happened the first night. The person has had you once yes but it doesn't mean they are then allowed to treat you without respect. Let them see that you are more than what happened the first night and that you can't be defined by that. The best part of this approach is that you do not even have to say a word, you just be yourself and your values will speak for you naturally.

Relax and act natural:  Let things flow naturally. This is very important and should be applied in every other point I have stated. If you are going to refuse any advances, do it naturally and not force it. If you force it then a patient person (who just wants the physical pleasures) will see through it and know that you aren't being natural with it. That will give them more reason to remain patient till they get what they want. Be in control and give in when you want it. Take this approach and see, if there is true love in there somewhere? The best way to achieve this is actually to not want the sex so you might have some personal mind convincing of your own to do.

Be upfront and sincere about how you feel: If you are the kind of person who likes to be straight forward. You can simply come out and state the way you feel and what you feel should be done . Sit down with the person and express how you feel about what happened the first time. Let the person know that you got carried away and that you really aren't that kind of person so that they shouldn't look at you in that light. You can also ask that you both start over and get to know each other much better before attempting to get intimate again.Your sincerity might be mistaken for desperation but only by a person who isn't smart and mature enough to understand you being upfront. If you really are a person of high values then don't let it disturb you, it's their loss and not yours.


So remember that all hope isn't lost after the first date night turns out to be more steamy than you planned it to be. The most important thing I have to mention again is letting anything you do happen naturally. Do not force any of these points. Depending on the point you choose to act with, when you speak or act, let it come out naturally.

Best of luck...