Do Relationships work like magnets?

     Remember your physics and chemistry lessons? I think if you had a 'not-so-naughty' upbringing, then those classes would have been the first place you heard the saying that 'opposites attract'. It's only after we grew a little more and started opening our eyes to the boy-girl relationships part of life that we started relating that saying to our love life also. Now i'm very sure you have also heard the saying that people with opposite characters tend to stick together more than lovers with too many similarities. For example a cool headed guy would most likely end up with a hot headed girl and a quiet person would most likely fall for a very chatty person. But how true do you feel this is? Is it always true that you have to seek out your opposite to be sure of a happy and long lasting relationship? What are your thoughts?. I'll tell you what I feel first...





    First of all I'll say that it's both true and false. Sometimes in order to have the full experience of life with a little twist and adventure to it, you have to go for someone who is different from you. Someone who will explore other things that you wouldn't think of on a normal day. Someone that will push you to explore those things because left for you, you just would remain comfortable doing things you know. At the same time, it has it's own down side because you wouldn't always agree with that person and if things go wrongly, you might find yourselves constantly disagreeing and quarreling which could be unhealthy.

I personally believe that it isn't about finding your opposite or someone that thinks just like you. Nah....it's a lot deeper than that and that is one thing that people miss. I personally believe it's about your values as a person, you morals and your ethics. Does the person respect the same things you respect? Does the person find the things you see as morally wrong also morally wrong? Do you both share the same general life ethics and values? These are the key things that I believe that would determine if you will end up together and most importantly, stay together. It goes far beyond petty interests. Those little things like what kind of music, movies and sports your partner likes contributes a lot. But if you do not have the same values, then you wouldn't last long enough to even find out if your partner prefers wizkid to davido. This is my personal opinion and i'm curious to find out what you guys feel about this topic. Drop your comments in the comment box below.

As I would always say, there is no particular formula that would work for everyone. Everybody reacts to different situations in different ways. It all depends on you and what you can take. It's different strokes for different folks but the above point about values tends to help a lot.

So how about you, do you prefer having someone who has the same interests as you or would you prefer ending up with your opposite?