Q&A: Social Media Relationships

Q: Hi Ralph, I want you to discuss this as a Q&A not as a Dear Ralph, also leave me anonymous. What do you feel about putting relationships in social medias and the rest. My girl is always bugging me that I am not proud of her. Inside me I know I am, I boast of her to friends and I have never cheated on her. I am just not comfortable with doing this. So What do you think about doing this. Is it right or wrong?





A: I believe it's neither right nor wrong, the thing is that just like everything, it has it's own consequences. I personally have nothing against people that put their relationships out in the social media, to me, as long as they are okay with it, why should any other person be bothered about it. However as much as it is fun doing that, there are also down sides to this. I believe the first and most important thing when it comes to these social media relationships is the reason why they put it there. If it is to get other people jealous, show off or such related reasons then if things go wrong and the relationship is to come to end the effect would backfire big time. I personally believe that things like this should be done fully from the heart and for personal reasons between the couple.



I like to look at it like this, you see the celebrities out there? The big names that have the paparazzi watching every breath they take and capturing it on camera. Most of them are stuck in that kind of life, they are looking for ways to come out of it and at least have a moment or two to themselves without having their business all out in the public, at least their private business. You see how bad it looks when a celebrity takes a wrong step, a simple step that if a regular person like me and you where to take, it wouldn't look like anything big. But the moment they take this step, it hits the news, everybody knows about it and before you know the "self appointed judges of life" would be on their case. They then have to endure waves upon waves of bashing and criticism which would die down only in a long time or if another celebrity is to do something worse than whatever they did, only then would the attention of the public be diverted. You see that if they had their way, their personal business wouldn't be out there in the public, well at least for some of them. This is because they have had enough of it and learnt that certain things just need to be kept private if you cannot handle what comes with making it public. This is kind of the same effect you get when you put your relationship out there.  Not that I am saying that simply because of the negative effects it could cause that you should never do it, I am just saying that I think it's better when done for a different reason other than to show off.

If you have listened to Usher and T.I's song, "My Life Your Entertainment" maybe you would understand a little more how these celebrities feel about having their personal business and private life made public to everyone.

As I said before, I believe it is absolutely fine if you decide that you want your private business in the public, but if you gain the fame you are looking for through that, be ready for the challenges that follow also. And if you are planning on doing this, putting your life out there, well now you know a few of the risks it poses. The choice remains yours, my only question is this. Can you handle it?

But this is just me, what of the rest of you guys reading this, what do you think?