Dear Ralph: Am I pregnant

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Hi Ralph,

I am Mary and I am 15 yrs old . It may look weird but I have a boyfriend whom I love so much. Few days ago ,I went to visit him and we had penetrative S3x ,and am a very religious girl and am scared of getting pregnant at an early age. But u see ,what really happened is that his d*ck didn't really penetrate. I don't know if his sp*rm entered or touched my vag*na. Bu I am certain, it didn't penetrate. I am really stupid for doing dis act, please can u tell me if I will be pregnant??? Also if a person was to go for anal s3x and the guy releases in her, would that make me pregnant?



Mary,









Dear Mary,

    Thanks for writing to me, the truth is that I won't be able to tell you if you will be pregnant from this encounter but it is a very huge possibility. From the sound of things, you aren't absolutely sure of what went down that day.  However I would like to ask a couple of questions to help me narrow down my answers for you.  Did you use any protection? Did he release while inside you or when he pulled out?  Is this your first time? Where you ovulating when you had sex? What was the space between your last period and when you had sex? When is your next period meant to come? How many days does your period last and how long do you go before you see it again. All these questions will help me give you an answer close to the truth but just like everything that has to do with pregnancy, the answer can't be 100% correct. ‎I think the best thing for you to do right now is just to wait it out. Wait for your period to come or not and take things easy, if possible alert your bf of your fears so he'll be prepared just in case of anything. In my opinion, if he really didn't penetrate and didn't release inside you then you're less likely to be pregnant.

Secondly, if a guy goes in from behind and releases in you, you won't get pregnant. I really hope not but if you are planning on going for that then there are a whole lot of precautions that you should take. There are a lot of dangers in taking that approach. It isn't entirely safe and it can leave that part of you damaged. If you really want to go for that then please write to me and i'll give you the precautions you should take. I however would ask that you think deeply without the influence of any other person, think about if you really want to go for that.

This paragraph is just an advice i'll like to give outside of what you asked. It really isn't my business but I just thought i'll let it out and you can choose to read it or not. Pay attention to it or just ignore it but I really hope you at least read through and consider what i'm saying.
     I would advice that you and your bf both decide if you guys want to venture into sex at this age. It is honestly really early for you and I think you should take your time with it. There are a lot more things that you and your bf can concentrate on. You both should try and build your love and bond first. It's more important. I know it's fun but that's not the kind of fun you should be having right now in my opinion. It can be dangerous. Your fear of being pregnant won't stop you from getting pregnant if you have s*x and it's out of this kind of fear that people are pushed into abortion to hide the shame they feel when they get pregnant. Trust me you do not want to go through all that at such a young age. If you want to go into this then you have to be willing to take the negative side of it also so I think it 's important that I tell you all these so your mind can be prepared. Please if the both of you must have this, If you must have s*x then it's best to be safe. Please use some protection. Pregnancy isn't the only thing should be worried about. Their are STD's and some physical consequences especially when it comes to "going in through the back door". Also you have to be sure that your bf is responsible enough to handle anything that might happen. It's none of my business and you don't have to answer but please how old is your bf? I really hope you aren't being pushed into this.

 I know u might be curious for now about sex and all but if you aren't sure yet just let it go. Especially if you are being pushed into this then do not give in. Make sure you do it at your own time and that it's what you want. ‎I'll still advice you to just wait for your period. Do not do anything to harm urself. If you are really scared then just meet a doctor directly and let him or her run a scan for you. Welcome to the family Mary, we are here for you.




Ralph