How do you see yourself

    What do you see when you look in the mirror? When you are sitting by yourself, how do you perceive yourself. Is the way you see yourself and your image of who you are an extension of who you want to be or what people have painted you to be? If the latter is the case then you need to take charge and redefine the way you want to see yourself so you can start your journey of becoming the best you that you can be...
     If the old me was that cat above, my projected shadow would have been that of a mouse or a mosquito.I used to be the kind of person to take every single comment thrown at me seriously and let it weight on me, if I was praised of cos I felt really good but then that doesn't come very often in our world does it? so you can imagine how I used to see myself, all the criticism I ever got stuck to me, I looked down on myself a lot because of what I felt people saw me like, I didn't realize that the only reason I was seen that way was because I was seeing myself the same way. Back then I would literally walk with my head looking down to the floor, I never had the confidence to look a person in the eye when speaking to them with the fear that they would see through me and see that I hardly had any worth, but then that action alone told them everything they needed to know about me. I had a lot of things I wanted to express to friends and family but then the few times I got the opportunity to speak out,I made a mess of things because I had already judged myself and the way I saw myself affected the way I spoke which convinced the people more that there perception of me was right. Well it was no other persons fault but mine. I gave them the chance to do that by doing it to myself first, if I had looked at myself better, perceived myself as a stronger person I would have been able to counter that effect but I soaked myself in self-pity and only made things worse.
    I eventually started making changes little by little, it was a long and tough journey or should I say that it still is because it's one that I am still making, but so far it's been good. I feel more confident, I feel better, I am more outspoken and I believe I have come a long way in redefining the way others see me.

   You know yourself best and you have known yourself longest. Don't allow someone you've known only a couple of seconds or hours or even years tell you who you are, you are the only person that knows yourself well enough to know who you are. When you learn to take charge and be who you have decided to be, you will see that the way the world sees you will definitely change. Your character, the way you walk, the way you dress, the energy around you is going to change without you noticing it.