Dear Ralph: Stomach hurts after s3x

The famous DEAR RALPH section of AskRalph blog is dedicated to real people with real life struggles. Click the link to 'read more'. Feel free to contact me by using the email form you will see when you CLICK THIS LINK  or writing directly to my emails raphaelsblogg@gmail.com or askralphblog@gmail.com if you have an issues you want me to discuss. I would also want to encourage everyone that reads to drop their comments and inputs on the issue. Feel free to object or support any advice I give and drop your own thoughts. It's all in the best interest of the poster and the AskRalph family as a whole. So lend your advice and support through the comments section. It'll be really helpful to the poster. This is one of the main reasons I opened this blog. If you are reading this then I look forward to your participation. Ralph does not....I repeat DOES NOT have all the answers so your opinion counts a lot.... Alright let's do this!







Dear Ralph,

      I'm having the scare of my life, this has never happened to me so I wanted to get your opinion again as usual. I and my man were having s3x, very good one at that and I was in heaven but something happened that has never ever happened to me before. When we finished up about 5 or 10 minutes later my stomach started hurting so bad. I couldn't get up from the bed and it was right after I finished peeing. I laid down on the bed clutching my stomach and the pain slowly died down after about 30 or 45 minutes. I thought that it was a one time only thing but it happened again just last week and since then I've been worried. I meant to write you sooner but I've just been busy.  Please do you know anything about this? Am I in trouble? Is this dangerous? What should I do? Help me out abeg.


Deborah









Dear Deborah,
 
       I am going to make a couple of guesses and one of them might be the reason why this is happening. It could be a number of things but regardless of whatever I mention remember that they are just suggestions. You should still get to a hospital and get yourself checked if the pain continues or before it gets worse. I feel the issue is that your man is hitting your internal organs for a couple of different reasons. You know your digestive organs are very close to your reproductive organs so you will feel pain if they are hit during intercourse. Here are some of those guesses...

First of all, if you are engaging in rough s3x then that could be a problem for you. That vigorous movement and rapid thrusting could be connecting him to your organs more than it should and it shouldn't be connecting to your digestive organs at all or with that much force and that could be one of the problems. So if this is the issue then take it a little easier next time, the both of you should try and take it a little slower until you are sure of how to deal with this.

Secondly Deep penetration. If you engage in very deep penetration with the aim to find more pleasure  and increased stimulation then this could also be the issue. Depending on the angle of penetration and how deep he goes into you, he might also connect with your organ and when combined with some forceful thrusts, it could cause that pain that you are experiencing.

Speaking of angle of penetration. Different styles and positions could lead to penetration from an angle that would cause him to hit something in your stomach also. So if you have been engaging in the woman on top position, the reverse cow girl (sitting on him while backing him) or if he has been taking you from behind then you might want to take it easier next time. Those styles provide different angles of penetration that could bring you more pleasure but then could also cause you more pain.

Also If he is too big down there then you both would want to take it gently and explore other positions that will provide the stimulation you want but for now he should just stick to the missionary if size is the case.

The problem is that during intercourse, your pain threshold rises but then when you are done, reality sets in and you start feeling all the pains your body initially blocked out.  That is why the pain comes a while after you are done so you have to be careful. I suggest that you consider these guesses. If you have been practicing any of these then you might have your solution by toning down a little. You can even totally stop the one that you feel is causing the issue and you will be fine. However as I said before, I would also suggest that you get to a hospital if you have the time or space. Just to be sure that you haven't suffered any internal damage or wound that might cause more problems and to find out what the real problem might be. Take it easy okay? You will be fine. You are already a member of the family so no welcome for you. Lol.. Take care Debby


Ralph