Choose your life by yourself

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If you do not like your present background for any reason or where you are in life, then do not let it affect you or determine the outcome of your life. It should be the more reason why your should fight it instead of settle for it. It is easy to give in and allow your present location in life or where you come from determine the way you make your journey and your destination. But you have to learn to put up a fight in this life, a fight against circumstances, a fight against outcomes. If you do not like where you are, then why let it determine your destination and lead your way for you. You should be fighting to make a change and not giving in. Stop telling yourself that your situation is helpless and that because of who you are or how your family is or whatever other excuse you have made up in your head, that you cannot be in a certain place. Life is a constant struggle, an everyday struggle to make the next day a better one. If you do not like where you are right now then your struggle should be to change it.





There are lots of people out there who come from poor homes, abusive backgrounds and all sorts of other roots. But if there is one thing I believe in this life, it's that every single person is capable of making a change. It just depends on if you believe it yourself. You see your beliefs place limits on you in this life. If your belief is that you can never make it out of where you are and that you would always end up somehow living a similar lifestyle to the one that you detest because that is the only way you saw how to live while growing. Or that it just simply is your root, then you would surely end up like that. But if you believe that no matter where you might be coming from or that no matter what the world throws at you, that you alone gets to shape your own life, then you can become whatever you want to be. Negative thoughts give rise to negative outcomes just like limiting beliefs place barriers to the height which you can rise to or above.

In this life we all have a choice and the way our life turns out depends on the decisions we make. The path you take today would determine where and how you might end up.

 Just take a look at the world today, you'll see people from different places, families, the projects, the slums and the ghettos. If you walk the streets you would see all kinds of people. People out there grinding and hustling as hard as they can everyday in any way they know to make it out of the lifestyle they were born into. They turn to different trades like, acting, music, art and other crafts. Just for a shot at a better life. Now if you still look again, in fact you wouldn't need to look too hard because this other set dominate the population. Am talking of the set of people that have accepted what they have around them and believe they would never be able to make it out of the system they live in. So they give up and face the life they already know, the only life that they are used to. They turn to robbery, gang banging, murder and other social vices. At the end of the day it always makes them feel better when they turn and point fingers at the government for creating "the system". But if you look closer you will find out that if only they believed a little more like some others, they would have had a better chance. Look at the different big names you have around you, from musicians to Engineers, from actors to Scientists, people of different trades and businesses. If you look very deep into the origin of some of them if not most, you would be shocked at how similar their conditions where to yours today. These people never gave up, they never gave in. They believed and because of that, they are where they are today.
   
As I have said before, it all depends on what you choose to believe. Do you believe that because you come from an abusive home that you can never raise a happy family? Or that because your dad hits your mum that you would end up hitting your wife so you accept that it's the way your life should be. Or maybe you believe as girl that because your mum didn't exactly make her living through the most respectable means that you would have to result to such things to get to wherever you might be going. Let me tell you now that this life is what you make it to be. You alone have the power to determine how things are going to be for you. You alone have the power to choose the outcome of your life and if you choose change, then you will have change. If you choose a certain life style, you cannot blame it on your background, you would be the one to answer for it. Not the government, not your parents, not your friends, not the system, but you! If it's a good lifestyle then fine you will have your rewards but if it's a lifestyle you wouldn't be proud of then you alone made that decision and the consequences would be yours alone to bear.

But if you are reading this and you believe you have already made a wrong turn at a certain point. Do not have any fear, you still have a choice and you can choose to make another turn right now, to make the right turn this time. So which is it going to be? Are you going to let your background choose your life for you? Or are you going to choose your life for yourself.

I know you are out there reading this right now and you might be fighting this message and telling yourself how our faith is already set for you. How change is for certain people. Well I want you to know that it's okay to give into this message, it's okay to let go and make a good change. This is your life, you get only one shot in this life. We aren't sure if there is an after life, so make sure you make the best of this one. Make the right decision towards change!